I have an ex-husband named Frank Wu. When we married, I was 24 years old and he was 39. I was young and naive, and he was very manipulative. That, at least, has not changed.
For years after our divorce, his words rang in my ears - he told me in private that my writing was horrible, that I was no good, that I was shit. He let his friends talk down to me and call me abusive names. When I left him, he gave my phone number to his friends so they could call me up and shout abuse at me. In public, he would be all smiles, but in private was a different story. You want to talk about scars? I have a burn mark on my back that I covered up with a tattoo. I didn't want to talk about my first marriage, didn't want to carry that pain with me, so I tried to erase it.
When I was with him, I had just started writing for publication. However, he eroded all of my self-confidence and I stopped writing. For years after our marriage ended, I didn't write because I didn't want to be involved in that world and accidentally cross paths with him.
Only recently have I decided that what he did back then doesn't have to hold me back now. I decided to write again - that I wouldn't live in fear of him or what he could say. I decided this because of my current husband, who has been nothing but supportive and loving of my dreams.
I guess I was wrong about Frank. He made a very public post about me in September: https://archive.today/69Qmn. I just discovered it today because people are tweeting it. I am adding the link here so you can read it. Because I want you to read the outrageous things he is saying, and to know that what he is saying is BULLSHIT.
I am not going to stoop to his level of verbal abuse and lies. I am only going to defend myself with facts. He was 15 years my senior. He was older than me, taller than me, outweighed me. When I left - and yes, I was the one to leave - he came up to my parents' house, trying to get me back. When he wouldn't leave me alone, I moved across the country to get away from him. Then he showed up at my sister's apartment in New York City where I was staying while I got my feet under me - he talked his way past the manager by saying he was my husband, and being very persuasive that I would want to see him - and I opened the door to her apartment to find him waiting inside. Let me say, it was not a good surprise to think I was going to a safe space, only to find him waiting for me. So I cut all ties with my old friends, worried they would give him information about me. I changed my number because I was getting phone messages from his friends telling me I was a piece of shit - basically repeating everything he had told me for the year we were together. And then when I had done all that - left my whole life behind - the nightmare, I thought, was over.
My current husband and I are approaching our six-year anniversary. We have two beautiful children. It was my husband who convinced me to stop being afraid to write, to send my stuff out there. It was he who convinced me that nothing bad would happen to me. I tried to tell him that he didn't know my ex-husband and how vindictive and manipulative he was when we were together. I was afraid, but I decided to do it anyway, because I had my husband's loving support.
Let me ask you - what sort of woman runs away across the country, changes her phone number and cuts ties with all of her friends because SHE is the abuser? What sort of man publicly posts such outrageous shit about his ex-wife in a public forum? Yeah, I thought so.
I don't want to live in fear anymore. So, Frank Wu, take your lies and shove them. You can't manipulate me. And you can't hurt me anymore, either.
1/23/2015 01:06:02 pm
Sounds like him and his current wife deserve each other! I'm sorry you had to experience all that!
8/17/2015 10:12:40 am
Frank Wu doesn't have a wife. He has a tranny facsimile of a wife, who is as batshit insane as he is.
1/23/2015 01:11:56 pm
Wow, sounds about right considering the craziness surrounding the Wu's
1/23/2015 01:12:52 pm
I'm so sorry you had to experience that. Please stay strong and safe.
1/23/2015 02:05:02 pm
Feel you should know Alison. Wu's current wife is on a similar level of manipulative abusiveness and has been abusing an international community of people by doing the "victim" go around on National TV and in Press.
1/24/2015 10:25:12 pm
whatever paedophile, go hang out on 8chan with the rest of the child molesters
1/25/2015 06:22:22 am
No surprise that an anti-Gamer calls them self "Satan".
1/25/2015 06:43:46 am
'The beast was allowed to mouth its boasts and blasphemies and to be active for nine months; and it mouthed its blasphemies against GamerGate, against his 'privilege', his heavenly games and all those who are sheltered there.
1/23/2015 02:09:35 pm
Thanks for this. Manipulators like your ex husband need to be dragged into the light at the very least to protect the naive and often young people they prey on.
Alison, I was always impressed by your writing. You may remember that I bought you a laptop for writing and alerted you to the anthology that eventually published your story "Penned". I was so impressed by that story that I asked the judges of the Sidewise awards to consider it for best alternative history. I was disappointed they did not nominate it.
1/23/2015 03:33:24 pm
Is that a confession, sure sounds like it. ' Neither of us is the same person' are you sure? your original 'zoepost' was very spiteful, and lends credence to what allison is saying. You could have just got on with your life instead of creating another WUspiracy. It's just a game to you guys.
1/23/2015 10:31:34 pm
Frank Wu's trauma is convincing when you know he went from this fine piece of ass to the shemale he currently calls his wife. It's almost like Frank swore off women altogether.
1/24/2015 06:50:50 am
<b>The truth probably lies in the middle somewhere.</b>
1/24/2015 08:01:01 am
yup sounds like a confession to me.
1/27/2015 03:48:12 pm
Lmao you married a man that thinks he's a woman.
8/17/2015 10:15:20 am
You're a piece of shit, Frank. That much is evident from your association with John Walker Flynt, the notorious lying tranny psycho.
Sarah of the woods
1/4/2021 01:10:33 pm
1/23/2015 07:16:06 pm
1/23/2015 07:23:08 pm
Is that really you, Frank Wu? I hope it is, as I am your biggest fan. I think this blog post by your ex-wife is a vile and disgusting attack on your wonderful character. How anyone can be duped is beyond me, but I am going to try and help them see the light Frank, don't you worry. Listen up you filth, let's review what has happened here, and you'll see that Mr. Wu's account is clearly accurate and beyond reproach. Without further adieu, time to dive in...
1/23/2015 07:31:35 pm
8/17/2015 10:17:01 am
Feel the burn, Frank!
3/9/2021 06:50:52 pm
I love this more than life itself.
1/23/2015 10:58:59 pm
Frank is someone who willingly married a tranny (Brianna). I think his opinion on all things can be safely disregarded.
1/24/2015 09:17:09 am
I'm so sorry all of this happened to you. I just want to wish you good luck and good for you for looking towards the future. I sincerely hope your writing goes well.
1/25/2015 05:37:54 am
I will not make judgement on you or Frank one way or the other, but I feel the need to offer you a word of warning.
Blue Jeans Bandit
2/13/2015 10:51:04 pm
Hey Allison, guess what? It's been exposed that Brianna Wu, Frank's wife, is also an abusive bastard! She was mod at Susan's, a forum for transpeople, and abused her power so they banned her. See more here:
2/19/2015 12:38:28 am
Thanks for sharing Allison, know that Frank has little credibility with a vast community of people, and as such, we don't see this as a he said / she said, we know it's what she said. Much props, and best of luck with your life, both love and otherwise.
12/4/2021 05:58:53 pm
Your ex-husband married a mentally ill man who chopped his own dick off. Those two sociopathic fags deserve each other.
1/21/2023 12:01:00 am
Frank Wu looks like a bloated Mongolian soyjak that paycucks for that lying tranny Brianna Wu.
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I am a freelance writer and poet with over two hundred short pieces published in magazines and anthologies. If the Walking Dead isn't on, I draw pictures and do origami meditation in Alberta, where I live with my family. If the Walking Dead is on... shhhh! The Walking Dead is on! For more info, please check out my "About Me" page.
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