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Speak of the Devil: The Lies of Frank Wu

1/23/2015

29 Comments

 
I have an ex-husband named Frank Wu.  When we married, I was 24 years old and he was 39.  I was young and naive, and he was very manipulative.  That, at least, has not changed.

For years after our divorce, his words rang in my ears - he told me in private that my writing was horrible, that I was no good, that I was shit.  He let his friends talk down to me and call me abusive names.  When I left him, he gave my phone number to his friends so they could call me up and shout abuse at me.  In public, he would be all smiles, but in private was a different story.  You want to talk about scars?  I have a burn mark on my back that I covered up with a tattoo.  I didn't want to talk about my first marriage, didn't want to carry that pain with me, so I tried to erase it.

When I was with him, I had just started writing for publication.  However, he eroded all of my self-confidence and I stopped writing.  For years after our marriage ended, I didn't write because I didn't want to be involved in that world and accidentally cross paths with him.

Only recently have I decided that what he did back then doesn't have to hold me back now.  I decided to write again - that I wouldn't live in fear of him or what he could say.  I decided this because of my current husband, who has been nothing but supportive and loving of my dreams.

I guess I was wrong about Frank.  He made a very public post about me in September: https://archive.today/69Qmn.  I just discovered it today because people are tweeting it.  I am adding the link here so you can read it.  Because I want you to read the outrageous things he is saying, and to know that what he is saying is BULLSHIT.

I am not going to stoop to his level of verbal abuse and lies.  I am only going to defend myself with facts.  He was 15 years my senior.  He was older than me, taller than me, outweighed me.  When I left - and yes, I was the one to leave - he came up to my parents' house, trying to get me back.  When he wouldn't leave me alone, I moved across the country to get away from him.  Then he showed up at my sister's apartment in New York City where I was staying while I got my feet under me - he talked his way past the manager by saying he was my husband, and being very persuasive that I would want to see him - and I opened the door to her apartment  to find him waiting inside.  Let me say, it was not a good surprise to think I was going to a safe space, only to find him waiting for me.  So I cut all ties with my old friends, worried they would give him information about me.  I changed my number because I was getting phone messages from his friends telling me I was a piece of shit - basically repeating everything he had told me for the year we were together.  And then when I had done all that - left my whole life behind - the nightmare, I thought, was over.

My current husband and I are approaching our six-year anniversary.  We have two beautiful children.  It was my husband who convinced me to stop being afraid to write, to send my stuff out there.  It was he who convinced me that nothing bad would happen to me.  I tried to tell him that he didn't know my ex-husband and how vindictive and manipulative he was when we were together.  I was afraid, but I decided to do it anyway, because I had  my husband's loving support.

Let me ask you - what sort of woman runs away across the country, changes her phone number and cuts ties with all of her friends because SHE is the abuser?  What sort of man publicly posts such outrageous shit about his ex-wife in a public forum?  Yeah, I thought so.

I don't want to live in fear anymore.  So, Frank Wu, take your lies and shove them.  You can't manipulate me.  And you can't hurt me anymore, either.
29 Comments
Alex
1/23/2015 01:06:02 pm

Sounds like him and his current wife deserve each other! I'm sorry you had to experience all that!

Stay strong be happy you started writing again nobody deserves to hold that kind of power over you! You might be facing more of an uphill battle now that you started again but the fact your doing so says alot!

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Some Guy
8/17/2015 10:12:40 am

Frank Wu doesn't have a wife. He has a tranny facsimile of a wife, who is as batshit insane as he is.

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Chris
1/23/2015 01:11:56 pm

Wow, sounds about right considering the craziness surrounding the Wu's

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Brody
1/23/2015 01:12:52 pm

I'm so sorry you had to experience that. Please stay strong and safe.

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Angel
1/23/2015 02:05:02 pm

Feel you should know Alison. Wu's current wife is on a similar level of manipulative abusiveness and has been abusing an international community of people by doing the "victim" go around on National TV and in Press.

I only mention it because this post might get a lot of attention, I guess that isn't a bad thing as it'll clear your name. But worried that you might have to deal with renewed hassle. All the same, if that happens, know you'll likely find yourself with a few thousand allies.

For what it's worth I read your blog and you seem so happy and at peace, I hope that continues for you regardless

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Satan
1/24/2015 10:25:12 pm

whatever paedophile, go hang out on 8chan with the rest of the child molesters

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Quietess
1/25/2015 06:22:22 am

No surprise that an anti-Gamer calls them self "Satan".

These are the kind of people that Frank's current wife, Brianna are deploying. They'll try to tell you that YOU are the bad person, they will grasp at any straw they can find and then they will hunt you down and destroy your life. Never let these people into your life, they are manipulative, and their number one tactic is convincing you and your friends that you are really a horrible person.

Stay strong, Alison.

bans
1/25/2015 06:43:46 am

'The beast was allowed to mouth its boasts and blasphemies and to be active for nine months; and it mouthed its blasphemies against GamerGate, against his 'privilege', his heavenly games and all those who are sheltered there.
It was allowed to make war against the saints and conquer them, and given power over every race, people, language and nation; and all people of the world will worship it, that is, everybody whose name has not been written down since the foundation of the world in the sacrificial Lamb's book of steam friends.
Let anyone who can hear, listen:
Those for captivity to captivity; those for death by the sword to death by the sword. This is why the saints must have perseverance and faith.'

Play the game \o/

Phouc Viet
1/23/2015 02:09:35 pm

Thanks for this. Manipulators like your ex husband need to be dragged into the light at the very least to protect the naive and often young people they prey on.

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Frank Wu link
1/23/2015 03:02:33 pm

Alison, I was always impressed by your writing. You may remember that I bought you a laptop for writing and alerted you to the anthology that eventually published your story "Penned". I was so impressed by that story that I asked the judges of the Sidewise awards to consider it for best alternative history. I was disappointed they did not nominate it.

However, as bald statements of fact I am not taller than you. http://www.boston-baden.com/hazel/Pix/p.cgi?2764-09 You may also remember that I was in New York because you invited me there. And I have no idea what that burn mark is.

Nonetheless, clearly your friends will believe you and my friends will believe me. This is the way these things go. The truth probably lies in the middle somewhere. Neither of us is the same person we were when we were together.

Peace to your family and good luck with your writing.

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bans
1/23/2015 03:33:24 pm

Is that a confession, sure sounds like it. ' Neither of us is the same person' are you sure? your original 'zoepost' was very spiteful, and lends credence to what allison is saying. You could have just got on with your life instead of creating another WUspiracy. It's just a game to you guys.

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John Flynt
1/23/2015 10:31:34 pm

Frank Wu's trauma is convincing when you know he went from this fine piece of ass to the shemale he currently calls his wife. It's almost like Frank swore off women altogether.

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The Deuce
1/24/2015 06:50:50 am

<b>The truth probably lies in the middle somewhere.</b>

So you're outright telling us that you didn't tell the truth now? That's quite a backpedal!


<b>Neither of us is the same person we were when we were together.

Peace to your family and good luck with your writing.</b>

Uh huh, right. Let's compare this with what you wrote the other day: <i>"But now it seems like she’s edging back into the sci-fi community, writing, going to conventions again. If she shows up at a convention I’m at, I will be compelled to call the police or inform the convention security of her insane and violently unpredictable behavior. She is dangerous.

I’ll warn you now. If you see her, run far far away. She is fucking evil incarnate."</i>

So, in two days you go from essentially "Her return to sci-fi needs to be destroyed and don't give her the time of day because she's pure dangerous evil" to basically "Hey, we're all good people here! Hope you have a good career!"

You disingenuous ass. You realize there may be unexpected consequences to your smear, and suddenly you start spinning and ingratiating. All you've done is validate what she said about how manipulative you are.

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bans
1/24/2015 08:01:01 am

yup sounds like a confession to me.

Fronk Woo
1/27/2015 03:48:12 pm

Lmao you married a man that thinks he's a woman.

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Some Guy
8/17/2015 10:15:20 am

You're a piece of shit, Frank. That much is evident from your association with John Walker Flynt, the notorious lying tranny psycho.

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Sarah of the woods
1/4/2021 01:10:33 pm

Frank;
It seems disingenuous to wish "Peace to your family and good luck with your writing."
after publicly declaring them " the most despicable, disgusting, deceitful, foul and vile human being I have ever known."

I also noticed your current S.O. has misgendered a female pilot to invalidate their input as well as misgendering a transwoman in the same manner in Jul of 2020 and bullying her off twitter.
Your S.O. proceeded to delete the tweets only AFTER the damage was done with no apology or retraction...just covering tracks

I have not heard you speak against that misogyny.

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gamer
1/23/2015 07:16:06 pm

Dear Alison,

I am sorry for what you went through and I want you to know that there are people who are doing everything they can to expose the hypocrisy of these people.

I like sci fi and I promise to buy the next thing you write out of spite for these horrible monsters one of whom you had to deal with personally.

Please make sure it's published digitally.


P.S. because you are not involved in the journalism or video games industries, I highly recommend that you do not publicly get involved in the gamergate mess. People who don't properly hide their identities have had their lives ruined by the likes of Frank and friends.

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TotallyCereal link
1/23/2015 07:23:08 pm

Is that really you, Frank Wu? I hope it is, as I am your biggest fan. I think this blog post by your ex-wife is a vile and disgusting attack on your wonderful character. How anyone can be duped is beyond me, but I am going to try and help them see the light Frank, don't you worry. Listen up you filth, let's review what has happened here, and you'll see that Mr. Wu's account is clearly accurate and beyond reproach. Without further adieu, time to dive in...

Frank (Facebook)
"'HuffingtonPost is running a series on domestic abuse, with the theme of: Why didn't you just leave?' This strikes a deep chord with me because: The year I spent married to Alison McBain was the more [sic] horrific year of hell of my life."

She was apparently so keen on abusing you, that she moved to another state to live with her sister, (this is clearly the action of an abuser, way to stand your ground Frank). After this horrible woman “invited" you to New York, you went right out there to see her face to face... this was very brave of you Frank, and is the type of action that a domestic abuse victim typically takes to demonstrate their victimhood status. Yes, this is a very believable accounting of events and you should be showered with praise and accolades for being such a brave victim who stands up against their woman abuser. Alice was obviously expressing her deep misogynistic hatred towards you throughout your marriage, if only she had moved away and left you alone... [cue crickets]

Frank (Facebook)
"She said she was a better artist than me, because she once noticed a flaw in one of my paintings. Yes, she was a better artist, despite never having done a painting in her life."

Or, did she believe she was a better artist due to other artistic expressions she has created over the years? Of course not, I mean let's be real here... you're Frank “Woopdie Freakin'” Wu, master of brush and destroyer of worlds. As anyone who isn't ignorant already knows, the word "artist" is a synonym of the word "painter". Some idiots disagree, but you quickly correct them the same way you corrected your geometry teacher in middle school who foolishly told you not all rectangles are squares, pfft!

Frank (Facebook)
"Why did I marry her? Because I was stupid and in love. And because I was yet unfamiliar with the term Borderline Personality Disorder"

Good point Frank, good point. It is very uncommon, nay unheard of even, to possess the necessary amount of life experience by age 39 to be able to make even remotely rational decisions about long term commitment. The ability to suspect and rationally consider clear cut cases of supposed mental illness is also a herculean feat which only psychiatrists from Oxford University could hope to glean. I'm aware of this fact because the reincarnated Jesus Christ who lives downtown from me has blessed me with this knowledge shortly after explaining to me how all the world leaders are lizard people, genetically engineered by Mecha-Hitler deep inside the Nazi moonbase.

Frank (Facebook)
"But now it seems like she's edging back into the sci-fi community, writing, going to conventions again. If she shows up at a convention I'm at, I will be compelled to call the police or inform the convention security"

Good to know you're not going to take that abuse anymore Frank. No need to live and let live, if Alison dares show her sci-fi writing face at a convention for sci-fi writers you happen to be at, anywhere, at any time, it's war. Way to stick to your guns!

Frank (Blog Comment)
"Peace to your family and good luck with your writing. "

Yeah, you show her Frank. “Good luck” in the writing career Frank would not hesitate to derail and destroy. “Good luck” in the writing career Frank is going to try and snuff out merely for being at the same convention as Frank for a completely legitimate reason that has nothing to do with him, that'll learn ya, Mwhahaha! The kind of “good luck” that says: “Break a leg out there... No, seriously break your leg you stupid b*!@# I hate you and will destroy you any way I can.”

Can't wait for her family to get some “peace” right Frank? The type of family peace that says: “Sorry kids, mommy can't tuck you in tonight because she's in jail after her vindictive ex-husband got all his industry buddies to make up lies about her in order to get her arrested...” Yeah, that's the ticket! Serves her family right for being related to her, huh Frank?

Looking at the situation, it is obvious that you Frank would have the more legitimate claim to have your ex ejected or arrested at a convention, and certainly not the other way around. It is quite clear that there are no potential grounds here for her to turn the tables and get a restraining order against you for being an obvious danger to her person and career, ironically using your public Facebook post as the smoking gun for the judge to sign off on it. Nope, not the

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TotallyCereal link
1/23/2015 07:31:35 pm

[cont.]

Nope, not the case at all... good job Frank, you're the best!


Frank (Facebook)
"Alison McBain is the most despicable, disgusting, deceitful, foul and vile human being I have ever known."

This claim is entirely true and not an unjust character assassination in any way. There exists no amount of hyperbole or flat out projection in this quote. Nope, nuh-uh. There is not one single person you know of who is worse than her... This person is clearly the worst degenerate sub-human waste of space you know of and it definitely wouldn't be anyone you associate or live with currently. Good to see you were cleaver enough to allow this overtly crazy lunatic to move across the country to escape harass and divorce you so you could trade up to a real woman. It is obvious Frank that you can see clearly now that the rain is gone... it's going to be a bright, bright, sun shiny day.

Frank (Blog Comment)
"The truth probably lies in the middle somewhere."

I suppose you're right, although it is hard to imagine that the Wuwho that is Yuwho could be anything less than totally and completely correct in all things and Alice's account being more than anything but a transparent attempt at satisfying her indulgent need for narcissistic self-serving garbage. After all, it is clear to anyone with a functioning brain stem that Alice clearly was the one who started attacking you publicly after several years of silence (just after you thought you were be rid of her vicious attacks and harassment too, you poor victim you), all because you wanted to start painting again and attend conventions for painters. After defending yourself from her vile and disgusting unprovoked public attack against you Frank, it is very generous for you to say the truth probably lies “in the middle somewhere”.

After all, it would be quite obvious even to a hamster or a McIntosh (I prefer PC) that while your story may not technically be the 100% absolute truth, it is clearly much closer to it than her account. Definitely at least in the ballpark of truth and not smack dab on planet bullshit, in a galaxy far far away from the truth. Because you good sir are most certainly a wise, trustworthy, and level headed person whose espoused beliefs and positions on life are not in any way divorced from even a semblance of reality. No sir, you are the saintly man who is kind enough to grant that the truth may lie on a middle ground ever so slightly removed from: “She is fucking evil incarnate”.

You have clearly demonstrated to everyone on the internet, that you are an honest, kind, sincere, and rational man who most of all, is a brave victim who does not confuse accurate descriptions of his current wife for his previous one. You Frank Wu, in all your awesome glory, win the internet. Huzah, and good show!

Your #1 fan,

- TotallyCereal

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Some Guy
8/17/2015 10:17:01 am

Feel the burn, Frank!

Common Cormorant link
3/9/2021 06:50:52 pm

I love this more than life itself.

Beeble Brox
1/23/2015 10:58:59 pm

Frank is someone who willingly married a tranny (Brianna). I think his opinion on all things can be safely disregarded.

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Spikey Buddy
1/24/2015 09:17:09 am

I'm so sorry all of this happened to you. I just want to wish you good luck and good for you for looking towards the future. I sincerely hope your writing goes well.

Thank you,

Spikey

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Ceara
1/25/2015 05:37:54 am

I will not make judgement on you or Frank one way or the other, but I feel the need to offer you a word of warning.

Frank's new wife, Brianna, is a very manipulative, mean, spiteful, and egotistical woman. She will ruin someone just for the sake of ruining them. For this reason, I urge you to be very careful.

Brianna refused to help a dying woman because she cared more about her money than a woman who was supposed to be her friend. So if she will do something like that to a person who she considered a friend, what might she try to do to you?

But if Brianna and Frank do decide to attack you (which will prove Frank is the ass hole and you are the one telling the truth), rest assured you will have help. I won't say by whom because I don't want to cause you any problems, but let's just say I know 40,000 people who will have your back.

Take care, Allison.

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Blue Jeans Bandit
2/13/2015 10:51:04 pm

Hey Allison, guess what? It's been exposed that Brianna Wu, Frank's wife, is also an abusive bastard! She was mod at Susan's, a forum for transpeople, and abused her power so they banned her. See more here:

http://www.breitbart.com/london/2015/02/13/the-wacky-world-of-wu-the-tortured-history-of-gamergates-self-styled-feminist-martyr/

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Michael
2/19/2015 12:38:28 am

Thanks for sharing Allison, know that Frank has little credibility with a vast community of people, and as such, we don't see this as a he said / she said, we know it's what she said. Much props, and best of luck with your life, both love and otherwise.

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SomervilleDan
12/4/2021 05:58:53 pm

Your ex-husband married a mentally ill man who chopped his own dick off. Those two sociopathic fags deserve each other.

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GamerGate
1/21/2023 12:01:00 am

Frank Wu looks like a bloated Mongolian soyjak that paycucks for that lying tranny Brianna Wu.

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